
John and I have never been really big on celebrating holidays with elaborate gifts. We prefer to spend time together and cook something nice and perhaps watch a movie. After all, families that cook together, stay together. This saying was to be challenged on Valentine’s Day 2006.
John and I were both working downtown at that time and carpooling to and from work. The plan for the evening was to go to the store to pick up some ingredients for cheese fondue and make it at home. I worked right on the MAX line (Portland’s light rail system) so I figured I would get a head start and take the MAX up to North Portland and get the ingredients needed at the Fred Meyer located only three miles from our house. John could just pick me up at the grocery store and we would ride home together from there.
All started smoothly as I made my way to the store. I had to pick up 23048098 pounds of cheese, 2 bottles of wine (one for cooking, one for drinking), kielbasa, green apples and french bread to dip in the cheese deliciousness. I texted John to let him know I was done shopping and to get an eta as to when he would be arriving. He said “I’m here. I’m parked right in front of the store”. I looked right, I looked left, I looked up, I looked down, John was no where to be found. I said “ummmmm, no you’re not” as I was standing quite literally smack dab in the middle of the sidewalk in front of the store. John asked me which door I was standing at because he was at the door closest to our old apartment building. “Wait…..our old apartment building? Why on God’s green earth would you be at the DOWNTOWN Fred Meyer instead of the one THREE MILES FROM OUR HOUSE???” At this point, John says my tone had changed from it’s normal sweet and melodic (ok, maybe those are my words) to a darker, meaner, snarkier one. Those who know me will know that yes, this can happen. John argued that he just figured I would be at the downtown store because it was equidistant from both our places of employment and that made more sense to him. I clearly did not understand this argument or see any point in that frame of thought and well, I let him know that.
I decided I would start walking home and he could just catch up with me and pick me up. Being February, it should have been windy and raining. Thank goodness it wasn’t raining, but it was unusually cold and windy. Since John dropped me off and picked me up at the front door of my work every morning, I did not see the point in bundling up either. The bags were very heavy, remember how much cheese I had purchased? And the two bottles of wine were not helping the matter either. If I had a corkscrew with me, I would have opened one of those puppies up right then and there, to lighten the load and to take the edge off.
As I walked, I found that the anger began to dissapate, and I was able to laugh at the situation. It’s true, we had not clarified which Fred Meyer we were talking about and it was Valentine’s Day. There was no need to argue. John finally caught up with me with freezing cold hands, sore shoulders from my loot and TWO MILES under my belt. I got in the car and immediately started laughing at the predicament we had gotten ourselves into. Well, John wasn’t quite there yet. He was still steaming over the apparent verbal beating I gave him over the phone for going to the wrong store (I conveniently don’t remember this part of the story). We talked through it and eventually he laughed. It was a laugh through gritted teeth, but it was a laugh.
We immediately opened the wine upon entering the house and began to prepare our cheese fondue. I was hungry and I had burned off all of the calories I was about to consume with my 2 mile walk carrying 23048098 pounds of cheese. We had a lovely dinner and didn’t go to bed angry. It honestly made for the most memorable Valentine’s Day I’ve ever had.
In discussing this blog post with John last night he told me that I never actually apologized to him for the verbal beating I gave him over the phone. Not only did I apologize last night, but I’m also going to do it right here.
I’m sorry, John.
I love you John, you are my everything. You help me learn how to be patient, you communicate with me, you encourage me, you support me and you love me. You are the best Valentine I could ever hope for and I will love you forever.